Women Moving On After Divorce: Take Your Life Back

by suzy

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Moving On After Divorce, Where To Start?

Women moving on after divorce, whether they like it or not, are starting life anew.

There are a multitude of steps to take and not knowing where to start is the last thing any women needs after divorce.

Not only will it be completely normal for a woman to let loose a bit after her divorce, it’s practically a necessity.

Each person has their own way of letting loose and getting crazy. Some may go out each night, perhaps to dance and socialize.

While others may do all the activities they always had in mind during their marriage, but something, or someone, prevented them. Either way, this phase will come and go.

After which, it will be time to start thinking about trying it again, a relationship that is.

In order for this to work, women moving on after divorce, must learn how to not make the same mistakes again.

Top Mistakes Women Make After Divorce

Women are all individuals, all unique, and special in their own way.

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Even so, there are certain aspects and actions that the majority of women have in common, especially in regards to moving on after divorce.

The following are some of the most common mistakes that women make after divorce:

1. Telling their support system, family, and friends, that they are over the divorce, when they aren’t.

2. Jumping into another, bad, relationship to ease the pain of loneliness.

3. Pretending to be someone they aren’t, in order to please someone else.

4. Making life-altering decisions while feeling vulnerable.

5. Sleeping with the ex.

If a women makes one or more of these mistakes, does it mean she is doomed for relationship failure? Fortunately, no it doesn’t.

A woman in the midst of recovering from a divorce, could make all of the above mentioned mistakes and several more, and still move on from the break-up successfully. It is never too late for a women to take her life back.

How Can A Woman Tell When She Is Ready For Another Relationship?

Before a woman can open her heart to another man, she must take a certain amount of responsibility for the divorce.

If a woman can recognize what went wrong, as well as what her part was in the undoing of the marriage, than it might be time for someone new.

Even if the ex-husband was an awful man, it was still that particular woman’s decision to be with that man. Having an objective opinion, perhaps from a therapist or support group, can work wonders for a woman who is in the moving on process.

Signs You Have Moved On And Are Ready For A New Man

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Below are some signs woman can look for, within themselves, when trying to find out if they are ready for a new partner:

1. The idea of forgiving the ex-husband, and herself, seems possible and real.

2. Liking what she sees in the mirror.

3. Feels good about being single, but wants more.

4. The thought of being in a relationship with someone is exciting, not frightening.

5. Spending time alone is comforting and not something that’s being avoided.

There is nothing wrong with a woman taking all the time in the world to move on after divorce.

Although, there will come a time when the above question will be asked. “Am I ready for another relationship?”, literally asking that question is a sign that a woman is ready.

Each person in the world wants and needs a life partner, however, it could be very destructive if a woman makes that leap too quickly.

A woman could knock herself right back to where she was immediately following the divorce.

Women moving on after divorce are sensitive and emotional creatures. It should be seen as an opportunity to a new life.

A second chance of sorts. A woman shouldn’t give over her heart to another man until she is strong enough to stand on her own two feet.

Lastly, a woman must be honest with herself, always, and love herself, as much as she wants to be loved.

Hugs,
Suzy Weiss

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Samantha Derey from love to date December 12, 2012 at 3:07 AM

Moving on after divorce isn’t as easy as we think. It becomes painful when we think of how our ex would be happy with a younger girl. :(

Matt from Muslim Dating Site February 18, 2012 at 7:12 PM

“Making life-altering decisions while feeling vulnerable…”

Spot on, Suzy!

It’s all too tempting to think, ‘Right! Something went wrong and that’s why the relationship ended; what can I change moving forward?’

Too many place blame upon themselves and don’t realise that sometimes, relationships just end.

One of the worst things you can do is make life (and personality,) altering changes while heartbroken.

Matt.

suzy February 19, 2012 at 1:04 PM

I have to differ with you my friend :oops: I must take issue with “sometimes relationships just end” Relationships always end for a reason. It could be: Two people grow apart and in different directions, to abuse or infidelity and a whole bunch of stuff in between. When relationships end it is not about placing the blame on yourself or your partner or anything else. It’s about honestly looking at what caused the ending and then learning something from that so you don’t have to repeat it in another relationship.

Here’s an interesting insight. The underlying reason for the failure of most relationships is the lack of attention to the relationship itself. In other words the relationship stopped being a priority for one or both partners.

Wow, I just noticed how many times I used the word relationship both plural and singular. Here’s the quiz of the day :???: What’s another word that has the same as relationship?

Bev January 8, 2012 at 8:41 AM

Wow, I totally agree with JP. I find it totally baffling that a man who is short in both the looks and the brains department thinks that an attractive, educated woman would be interested in his advances. The only reason that I can think of for this is that he’s been successful with women no matter what. I have dated men who have had four marriages and the divorces to go along with it who still imagine that they have a lot to offer when they themselves aren’t that attractive. To me looks do matter – as wll as sensitivity, caring, etc. But I also see some really homely women with “baggage” getting dates with halfway decent looking young men. Maybe I think too much?

Really interested in that “key” – the attraction!

suzy January 8, 2012 at 9:33 AM

Bev,your right, the dating scene can seem baffling. And it is especially confusing for women dating after divorce or over 40. Looks do matter, but remember:’ beauty is in the eyes of the beholder’. My hunch is you are putting too much energy into what someone looks like and making assumptions from there.Yes you have to have chemistry with someone, but chemistry is not just the physical aspect, in fact it is the least part of what we call chemistry.

If you are attracting the kind of men that you describe in your comment then it’s time to do a ‘U” turn. That means turn the problem back around to you and do some self discovery to uncover why your are not meeting the good guys. I admit there are a lot of losers out there in the dating scene, but guess what, there are also a bunch of good guys, who are intelligent sensitive and caring individuals. You seem struck by the fact that what you consider ‘homely women with ‘baggage’ are getting dates with decent looking young men., That speaks volumes about how you look at relationships. I’m not trying to beat you up, seriously I’m not. But I am trying to wake you up. You need to get past the superficial and work on getting clear on the kind of guy that would be your ideal partner. The kind of man that would support and respect who you are on deep level. But most important you need to be the kind of women on the inside not just the outside to attract that good guy.

Hope this gives you some insight to that ‘key’ – the attraction! If your are interested in getting some help to move further in the direction of meeting the good guys that are out there, let me know and I will be happy to help you get started.

Suzy

JP January 5, 2012 at 4:36 PM

Here is a pressing issue in dating men who have unrealistic expectations and who are self delusional. I don’t use the numbers rating system, but in this email, it makes it expedient to say what I need to say…

Men who are a 3 or a 5 only want to date women who are 9 or 10′s
Men who are out of shape want “Barbie”….etc.
Men who are old and homely want someone 15 years younger than them and “hot”…etc.
I’m sure you know the drill…

suzy January 5, 2012 at 6:07 PM

True there are men out there who have unrealistic expectations as you say. Sounds like you know the “drill” well. But there are also a lot of men who are sensitive, honest and are looking for a honest sensitive woman to share their life with. The key is knowing how to attract and meet the good guys.

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