Women Dating After 50: Is It Worth The Effort?

by suzy

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Are you part of the women dating after 50 crowd and wondering if it’s worth the effort?

Granted, it does take effort to look your best especially if you are worried about how attractive you are at this age. And, it takes effort to meet good men.

Here’s the thing. If you like being the odd ball out at a dinner party, taking yourself for a drive on a beautiful Sunday afternoon and spending Saturday night alone with a quart of Ben and Jerry’s ice cream than it is not worth the effort.

But the reality is most divorced women don’t like the ‘live alone’ lifestyle.

Let’s face it human beings are social animals and most women over fifty would at least like to spend their social time with a male companion and even better would to be in a healthy committed relationship.

Lucky for you in today’s world people dating in their 50’s are now the fastest growing demographic in the United States, that in and of itself makes it worth your time and energy.

Being in relationship as you head toward retirement years is a very positive way to live your life.

Men and women in relationship have less health problems than single people.

Depression or the anxiety of dealing with today’s demands are far less if you are in a good relationship.

Having someone that cares about your well-being and happiness as well as you caring about his is a wonderful experience to have each day.

I realize that when you go through a divorce you often think… I’m better off alone.

Or you may think I don’t want to take the risk of ending up with some jerk again.

However, what you want to remember is today you are a very different woman from who you were when you met your ex 25 or 30 plus years ago.

You’ve paid your dues so to speak and today you are a much wiser woman then you were in your 20’s.

A common mistake that women dating after 50 often make is not to acknowledge who they are today and how far they have come.

Remember the ad “You’ve come a long way baby!”?

Well, that’s true.

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I want to encourage you to acknowledge all the life’s lessons you have learned and all the experiences you have had, that make you the strong and capable woman you are today.

You need to stop thinking about your age, or your horrible divorce or the extra 10 pounds you can’t get rid of.

The only things you need to change are your negative thinking around the idea of dating again and turn it into a positive attitude about moving on in your life.

Actually, it is very cool to be a part of the group of women dating after 50 in today’s world.

In your Grandmothers or even your Mothers time this was not considered something a woman could do.

In those days a woman was destined to live the rest of her life alone.

So celebrate the fact that you are healthy and free to find your ideal partner to share this stage of you life with.

For a step by step guide to women moving on after divorce check out Dating After Divorce, I’m Ready, Now What?

Hugs,
Suzy Weiss

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Matt from Dating a Muslim Man February 22, 2012 at 2:01 PM

“I want to encourage you to acknowledge all the life’s lessons you have learned and all the experiences you have had, that make you the strong and capable woman you are today.”

If anything, women dating after 50, in my opinion, are probably better placed to find a healthy, happy relationship that many others younger and with less experience. The circumstances leading up to being ‘single and 50′ may have proved a little rocky but seeing it as the opportunity it is certainly is the best mindset to hold on to!

Matt.

suzy February 22, 2012 at 5:40 PM

Yes, it’s important to look at this situation of dating after 50 as an opportunity to move forward in your life. But in order to do that women need to move outside of their comfort zone, risk rejection and they can’t give up on themselves. Matt your point is very important for a woman to hear. That all the past lessons each woman has learned and all the rough spots a woman has gone through, have made her a much stronger and capable woman today.

Margaret February 18, 2012 at 3:06 AM

At 56 and divorced I’ve met my share of losers and have wondered if I’m just kidding myself. I have wondered if it’s worth the effort. It’s tough, because I really want to be in a long term relationship, but I do get discouraged. I guess I feel I’m working awfully hard without getting very good results.

suzy February 18, 2012 at 2:49 PM

Hey Margaret, nobody will tell you it’s easy to be a 56 years old, divorced woman dating. But the key is how important is it to you to be in a loving long term relationship. And then ask yourself if it’s worth the effort. I can offer you some help in terms of getting better results. And that would be to take a little time to get educated and learn about a dating system that will take the struggle out of finding Mr. Right. It’s designed for woman dating after divorce which means it covers all the issues you are dealing with. Check out Dating After Divorce, I’m Ready, Now What and see if it makes sense to you.

Yaz from Singles Holidays Over 50s December 2, 2011 at 3:51 PM

I like this post very much. It is very honest, and not afraid to speak about vulnerability, without at the same time being “needy”. A very good balance capturing the complexity of life.

Not on the “I-don’t-need-a-man” feminist extreme but not in a “I-am-nothing-without-a-man” dependent woman mode either.

suzy February 15, 2012 at 1:40 PM

Yes Yaz you are right.

As women dating over 50 it’s important to recognize how far we have come as individuals and what we can offer a man that we want to have a long term relationship with.

As a mature woman looking for relationship, what do you have to offer that is uniquely YOU?

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