If you are a woman serious about getting Senior Dating Advice that speaks the truth than continue reading…
If you are a divorced woman dating over 50 you fall into the category of a ‘dating senior’. I know you probably hate that word ‘senior’ especially since you feel that you are still in your 20’s or 30’s on the inside.
But today I want to invite you to consider the word SENIOR from a different perspective.
Here’s the thing, at this point in your life it is time to let go of all your old emotional baggage and get a fresh start in life.
If you resist letting go of your anger and beliefs that no longer serve you then you may end up just like this woman in this tale:
A divorcee over 50, never remarried, and her daughter wanted to know why.
“The men I know would bring too much heavy baggage to the marriage and I simply don’t want to put up with it,” she explained Taking her mother’s hand in hers, the daughter said sweetly, “I hate to break the news to you, Mom, but you’re not exactly carry-on yourself.”
All joking aside:
The older we get the more baggage we bring to a relationship. When exploring senior dating advice this topic should be at the top of the list.
Now, are you wondering what would be some examples of what emotional baggage you may be bringing to a relationship? Well I’m glad you asked.
Emotional Baggage Issues:
1. Your Way Or The Highway
You have certain ideas and attitudes about everything from Politics to the appropriate attire to be worn when attending a wedding. You have carried these beliefs around forever and you are not about to change at this point in your life.
2. You Must Have Center Stage, Pay Attention To YOU!
You like to be the center of attention and will fight for that position. If you don’t get it then you will make sure your partner hears about it regardless of who zapped the attention away from you.
3. You Have Anger Issues Left Over From Your Ex
You went through a very difficult divorce caused by your ex husbands infidelity and you tend to be angry and suspicious of all the men you meet. One of the dating tips men give women is that that they need to chill out a little we it comes to the new guy in your life (he is not your ex).
4. You Are Needy When It Comes To Relationships
It’s never enough. You feel that the guy you are seeing does not call often enough, spend enough time with you and does not tell you he loves you enough, just to mention a few not enough’s.
These examples can help you get the idea of the baggage you may be bringing to any new relationship.
What Can You Do About Past Relationship Baggage?
The first thing you need to do is be brutally honest with yourself. You need to get the clarity about your own extra baggage and how it shows up when meeting new men.
Next determine if you have a trunk, a jumbo size suitcase or a carry-on bag to deal with.
If you have been carrying around extra emotional baggage for years then you probably are dealing with a trunk that needs to be emptied.
Or if you have been working on your issues for awhile you may just need to empty out your carry-on luggage.
The best senior dating advice for women based on my experience of coaching 100’s of mature women re-entering the dating scene is to start with a honest examination of your emotional baggage.
Get rid of everything that no longer serves you and now you can travel light, you won’t even need a carry on!