How to meet middle aged men is a question often asked by women looking to meet men their own age. When I hear single divorced women over 40 say they are going to give up on dating because all the good guys are taken… I want to pull my hair out.
That’s just not accurate because all the good men aren’t taken. Nevertheless, I know many middle aged women are convinced it is true based on their experience.
They have tried online dating membership sites and they met losers and liars. They have met jerks in the bars looking for a one night stand and they found speed dating humiliating. And many have said that ‘Meet Ups’ are not where the good men hang out.
So what do these single women over 40 do? Sadly, they give up because of the frustration and disappointment they experience.
My message to all of you divorced women in the 40 plus range is:
Pleeeze listen to what I have to tell you. It will totally change your ‘not meeting good men’ status to the easily meeting great available guy’s status.
It all begins by understanding the power of six degrees of separation and that it is the perfect answer to the question: “How meet middle aged men that are looking for their ideal mate?”
‘Six Degrees of Separation’ refers to a theory that all people on Earth are connected to one another by no more than six separate individuals. A theory that parallels the idea that “it’s a small world,” six degrees of separation maintains that through a series of connections or steps, all people have the potential to know one another on a first name basis through mutual acquaintances
Meeting nice attractive men over 40 is actually simple if you are what I call an “intelligent dater.”
Mobilizing Your Mob Of Matchmakers
You do this by doing the things that afford you the opportunities to always be meeting new people. Every time you make a new acquaintance that places you in the position of meeting their friends and that places you in the perfect situation to meet these new friends, friends and it just continues on and on.
The key to finding Mr. Right is you need to meet a lot of people to start the ball rolling. It doesn’t matter if you are meeting women, or men already in relationship. Whoever you meet just let them know that you are interested in meeting available men that they may know. By doing this you have successfully mobilized your mob of matchmakers.
I recommend that you have a brief description of the type of men you would like to meet. Make sure you keep your explanation about the men you would like to meet focused on the values that are most important to you. As an example if you are an active, healthy person, than you would want to meet a man that has that same value. Or maybe you want to meet men who are the same religion or race as you.
But here is a warning:
Do not make a list of superficial must haves for you to have an interest in a man. Superficial must haves would be a man must have a full head of hair, a certain eye color or be a particular height or be all buffed out etc. You get the idea right?
Granted, you must have chemistry with a man, but you may be shocked to discover that your physical attraction to a man has nothing to do with how much hair he has. As a woman dating after 40 you will be aging and so will he. So he could have hair today, but gone tomorrow!
Get clear on the 5 qualities that you must have in a man and communicate that to all the new people you meet. Remember, all the new people you meet know people that are also looking to meet a quality woman over 40.
Get Started Meeting New Men
Now here are some ideas of how to get started meeting new people.
Make a list of all the things that you have an interest in doing or learning about.
So, if you love to play golf check out golf clubs where you can get involved in tournaments or different foursomes. You could volunteer to be on the social committee for the club, great way to meet new people.
Classes and lectures are perfect places to meet a diverse group of people who probably know lots of other interesting people much like themselves.
So to answer the question how to meet middle aged men, just mobilize your mob of matchmakers.
Remember, the goal for dating after divorce for women over 40 is to meet lots of new people who will know people that you haven’t met and start the ball rolling. That is the best way for you to meet good men in the over 40 age range.
P.S. Sometimes a good dating coach can make a difference.
Take a look at what a dating coach can do for your love life.