It's One Thing To Lose It & Another To Keep It Off

What they (the experts) don’t tell you about losing weight after 40 and keeping if off is scandalous.

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Women Talking About Healthy Diets To Lose Weight

I think it’s impossible to get together with a group of women and not talk about our weight.

You do it, don’t you?

Okay, we may also talk about our hair and shoes, but invariably the conversation will turn to the problem of our extra weight after 40 that we can’t get rid of.

I was at a business event, sitting at a table with 5 other women. While we are waiting for lunch to be served we got onto the subject of the straight legged pants that you see everywhere.

One woman said how much she loves the look, but she has to lose the extra 10 pounds she can’t seem to get rid of before she could consider wearing them.

That conversation very quickly moved to all the different diets and who’s tried what.

You’ve had those conversations, right?

The Best Diets To Lose Weight: Who’s Tried What?

Once you hit the big 4-0 women are frequently seeking a sensible and healthy way to lose weight.

So, two of the women in our group had tried the low carb diet.

Both were successful in taking off the pounds they wanted to lose and they said it did not take that long to lose the weight.

One of the women lost 35 pounds. The other lost 25 pounds.

Pretty impressive weight loss, don’t you think?

Is this it?

What is the secret to losing weight and not gaining it back?

The Rest Of The Dieting Saga

Both women had almost the exact same experience.

Not too long after losing their weight they also started to lose their motivation to stay 100% on this rather restrictive diet.

The thought was just by carefully adding back just a few of the foods they were craving…

Slowly but surely it wasn’t long before they gained back most of the weight they had lost.

How depressing is that?

Then lunch was served.

It is true, keeping the weight off after losing it is the dilemma for most mature women dieting over forty. We all have experienced the frustration of packing the pounds back on after being on one of the ‘fad’ diets.

For Women Losing Weight After 40: Our Bodies Play Tricks On Us

We cheat just a little and then with great trepidation we get on the scale afraid to look.

Wowzee, no weight gain

Okay, so now we know we can cheat just a little and we’ll be okay.

Fast forward a few months.

Wow we’ve been forgetting to weigh ourselves

Really, forgetting? This would not be a good time to take a polygraph test.

Well You Know The Dieting Drill…

We make a deal with ourselves. I’m going to be really careful about what I eat for the next month and then I will weigh myself.

Okay so my pants are feeling a little tight, but I think I’m just bloated.

I got it…

I’ll wear my pants that still feel a little lose.

Okay so what if these are the pants I was wearing before I lost my extra pounds.

Fast forward a few months.

Oh, oh these pants are tight, get on the scale.

No way, I can’t believe it, I have gained back all the weight I lost.

There is only one way to deal with this depressing news.

My favorite Ben and Jerry chocolate ice cream will make me feel better, better, better.

I hate it when this happens

Okay, I promised to tell you what the experts don’t tell you about losing weight and gaining it back.

Many diets are made to fail.

In fact most diets are guaranteed to fail.

And it’s not your fault.

Try as you might…

There is a built in fail mechanism in the most popular fad diets.

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Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

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Tired Of Being Single?

Perhaps you are one of the millions of women over 40 dating that are looking for Mr. Right but can’t find him.

The question that keeps popping into your head is, “How to meet single men?”

Do you keep experiencing the frustration and daily challenges with online dating?

Do you keep asking yourself, “Are all the good ones are taken“?

Why Am I Single? Why Can’t I Find Love?

The Answer May Surprise You

The Handel Method coach, Marnie Nir discusses this very subject in an article for the Huffington Post.

Here is a clue…

Just click on this video below.

It will make you laugh… as well as wonder if…

Did you notice that underneath the humor in this video there’s hidden message about why you haven’t found love?

Okay I’ll get to that in a moment.

And before we get into where to meet single men and places to meet men.

First, answer this question …

Do You Really Want A Loving Relationship?

I mean would you like to be with a man who is loving, caring and kind?

A man that adores you and isn’t afraid to let you know how much he cares? A man that you respect and love for exactly who he is?

Think about this question for a right now and see what comes up in your mind.

Such as:

“Who wouldn’t want a man like that, but those men are taken.”

“The good men who are my age want to be with younger women.”

“How could it be that there are caring men out there when I keep meeting losers?”

“I’ve given up on the idea of meeting my ideal partner; it’s a dream that won’t come true, so why try?”

Anything here sound familiar?

Do you have similar thoughts rolling around in your head?

My goal is not to convince you about anything.

Or change your mind about what’s keeping you single.

All I’m suggesting is we explore some insightful ideas of:

Why Can’t I Find Love? Do This.

You need to remove your excuses and have an attitude of curiosity.

The more transparent you can be the more you will discover about yourself.

There is a part of our minds that likes to keep us in the dark.

This part of our mind likes to hide the truth of what is really going on.

It’s actually the ego part of our mind that believes it’s protecting us from something harmful.

But in reality it is not protecting us from anything except the truth.

And that keeps us confused

Just like the single woman in the video did not realize that her adoring kitty was in fact the culprit and the reason she’s still single, there is something keeping your single.

Now this ‘something’ is probably not your pet kitty.

It’s probably not something you cannot see (your inner kitty).

Most likely it is an unconscious belief or beliefs that are holding you hostage.

These subconscious beliefs can cause certain behaviors and attitudes that end up being broadcast to the opposite sex…

Unbeknownst to you

Stay with me….

I’m not talking twilight zone here…

I’m speaking the truth of, ‘what may be keeping you single’.

So…

Stop Asking: Why Am I Single? Why Can’t I Find Love?

If you are so inspired to get to the bottom of what’s keeping you single…

And discover the hidden truth…

So you can start moving in the direction to meet a caring, loving and kind man…

I can help you.

Everything you need to meet the one is in Dating After Divorce, I’m Ready, Now What?

It worked for me; it’s worked for 100′s of other women, so I know it will work for you!

If you are ready to make a positive change in your life then join me as I guide you through this journey of finding ‘The One’

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Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

I recently came across amazing video of a smart woman telling her story of how she was hoodwinked by a serial cheater.

I’m sharing this video below with you because I think there is a lot that can be learned when you look back on your early dating years.

Looking back before marriage and after divorce can reveal more than you probably realize in terms of your dating patterns and your experiences.

Lynn Terry recently, posted a candid video blog about a past relationship that didn’t quite work out.

Lynn is one smart lady and a fabulous Internet Marketer that I respect and have followed for a while.

She is a single mom that has literally pulled herself up by her bootstraps and has a number of successful online businesses.

In this video, Lynn shares her dating experience after her divorce with a guy she dated for a year or so.

She shares that during this year he never took her out on a date in public except on two different occasions.

That was to eat together, and when he did, he took her out of town.

In fact, just to get a cheeseburger he took her 30 minutes outside of town.

Hmmmm, what’s up with that. 

Watching this video, my first thought was that the guy had to be married.

Was He A Married Man Cheating On His Wife?

This would be the typical pattern of a married man that is cheating, not to wanting to be seen in public with you.

But surprise, surprise he was not married…

Instead, he was a ‘serial cheater’ and not to mention a liar.

It wasn’t until Lynn received an anonymous email from someone who had done a Google search revealing this guy’s user names on something like 19 different dating sites.

But that’s not all…

Lynn also discovered that a woman who was a mutual friend of theirs had been talking with this guy on MySpace (this was a few years ago, when MySpace was popular) for over 10 months and they were actually getting ready to meet in person.

This is all going on while Lynn believed she was in an exclusive relationship with this jerk.

The Rest of The Romance Story, That Didn’t Quite Workout…

Lynn did not meet this guy online.

They both were business owners and met through that channel.

So, Lynn would have had no idea regarding his over the top activity on the online dating sites.

So what does that tell us?

That basically no matter where or how you meet a man, he could be a liar, a cheater or…

Yes, an honest, good guy.

But the jury’s out until you do your due diligence.

How To Tell If Your Man Is Cheating

Does this mean that, you buy surveillance equipment, hire a private investigator and put cell phone spy on his mobile phone?

Well, I don’t suggest that you hire a private eye or get the latest surveillance gadgetry in the hopes of ‘catching a cheater in the act’.

That’s a little paranoid and over the top in my opinion.

But it does mean that do some investigative work to make sure the man you’re dating is an honest dude.

So the question is: How could this happen to an intelligent woman?

Has it happened to you?

Here’s the thing…

Your Personal Dating History Can Be Revealing

The red flags are always there, but that doesn’t mean we choose to see them.

By looking back from the time you started dating in high school and college…

To where you are today, a divorced single woman, can give you some interesting insight.

Signs Of A Cheater: There Are Always Clues

You may discover that there are certain red flags that you don’t see until you get blindsided.

A red flag could be…

You’ve been dating a guy for at least 3 months but you have never met his friends.

This could be one of the signs of a cheater.

Another red flag…

You only have a cell phone number and when you ask him for his home phone he tells you he only uses his cell phone.

This is one of the more common signs he’s cheating on you.

Here’s a few more…

He spends most the time you’re together talking about all his achievements in an effort to impress you.

He says he forgot his wallet so you pick up the tab for dinner.

Back To the Original Question: Is He Cheating On Me?

Serial cheaters can be so smooth.

But when you are being played by these guys, typically there is something in your gut that doesn’t feel right.

Go with your gut.

Here’s another one…

He lives in a different city from you.

He always comes to your city and you’ve never gone to his.

A red flag could be just a gut feeling that something is not right.

Recognize Your Pattern Of Ignored Red Flags

So, when you go down memory lane looking back at your dating history…

See if you can recognize a pattern where you ignored certain red flags.

Next, take a brutally honest look to see if this pattern is showing up in your dating life today.

Once you identify a pattern, it will be easier to spot it before you get blindsided by a guy who is a cheater.

Leave a comment and share your insights about red flags, and what to watch out for!

Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

P.S.  Lynn thanks for your willingness to share your story warts and all.  Hopefully, we can all learn from your experience.

You Can Overcome The Trauma Of Infidelity

You would probably be surprised to discover how many divorced women were cheated on by their husbands during their marriage.

Infidelity In Marriage Is A Big Deal

It’s one of the most common reasons for divorce today.

Sadly, most women who have had cheating husbands feel embarrassed to reveal to anyone the reason for their divorce was infidelity.

They feel it says something more about them, then their ex.

They think that it shows that they were not good enough wives and that is what caused the infidelity in their marriage.

If you are a divorced woman whose husband cheated please keep reading.

Discover the hidden culprit that may be stopping you from moving on in your life to meet your ideal partner.

Now, you may say to yourself: “That’s not me.”

Yes, my husband cheated but I don’t blame myself and actually I have moved on with my life and I’m past all my anger and hurt.’

What I know for sure through coaching so many women on how to move on to a successful life after divorce is this is a huge hidden problem.

It Is Not Obvious On The Surface

This problem lies just under the surface where you can’t see it.

But not seeing it does not mean that it is not having a negative impact on your life.

You see, even though it appears you are moving along in life, you may be at high risk of getting involved with another cheater or an emotionally unavailable guy.

Or you may be at risk of never moving on in your life and end up lonely and frustrated.

Cheating ex husbands damage you in ways you probably have never realized.

They damage you in a very deep and penetrating way.

A cheating husband changes who you are in ways that are so painful and deep that on an unconscious level you suppress your real feelings and bury them deep inside where you falsely believe that you won’t have to deal with them.

But in reality these buried feelings that you have carried with you from your ex are running your life.

These hidden emotions play havoc on your self esteem and self worth as a woman. They cause you to feel confused and uncertain about meeting and dating men.

It may be the reason that you never meet the good guys.

It’s Time To Move On And Take Your Life Back

When you have been betrayed by the man that vowed to be with you in sickness and in health and to be that guy that has your back who you can trust and lean on during the challenging times, it cuts you to the core of your essence to discover his unfaithfulness and all his lies.

So why am I telling you this not so inspiring saga?

Well it’s not to depress you, but rather to wake you up so you can cleanse yourself from these suppressed demons that may be in control of your life.

As a woman moving on after divorce, I’m here to tell you that you can do this.

Overcoming infidelity of the past is doable.

I’m here to be your cheerleader and let you know that you can heal.

I invite you to look deep inside yourself and find these hidden emotions so you can release them and move on to meeting your ideal partner.

If you want to learn more about how to successfully move on after divorce, check out Dating After Divorce, I’m Ready Now What?

This is where you will find the step by step process of releasing these hidden emotions and pain and takes you to through all the steps to get into the position of finding your ideal partner.

Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

Is He or Isn't He?

If you are asking this question because you have recently met someone that has caused you to ponder this idea of… Is he the one?

Or are you asking the question so you will know when you meet him, that he is the one.

Different Relationship Questions, Same Answer

The answer is the same for both questions.

He’s not the one.

No, I’m not trying to make you crazy with this answer.

If you are asking this question…Is he the one.

Then you can take it to the bank, he is ‘not the one’.

At least he’s not the one for you.

Let me explain something I consider crucial when a woman is looking or even just hoping to meet her ideal partner the second time around.

There is only one reason you would be confused about who would be your perfect mate.

The reason is you have not done the most important thing before even considering finding another partner.

Don’t Bury Your Past Failures, Learn From Them

You have not gone really deep into your own self discovery.

Until you know exactly what you must have in a partner you will be asking the question: Is he the one?

Now at first glance this appears to be pretty simple.

In fact, you may have made a list of the qualities that you want in your next partner.

But that is not what I’m talking about. These lists tend to be superficial at best.

How To Know If He Is The One, It’s Really About YOU

I’m talking about something that takes courage.

I’m talking about digging around where it gets painful to find out why you make the choices that you make in partners.

Believe me, it is more painful to keep making choices that aren’t right for you and end up right back where you were before you chose partner number 2.

Actually that’s why such a high percentage of second marriages fail.

Regardless of the reason you decided on a divorce it is one of the toughest things you will go through in this lifetime.

And if you have children it makes it even harder to deal with.

But quite honestly the most important thing about divorce which basically dismantle your life is to allow this event to reveal how you need to change a belief, an attitude or what that something is about how you see yourself.

This is the time for self discovery.

The normal reaction to divorce for most women is to put the whole ugly thing behind them and move on.

Problem is that will not work except for the immediate short term.

As you begin to find your way to living as a single woman and single Mom you do need the motivation to move on in your life.

Discover The Truth About Your Choices In Men

Stay True To Your Values

But you also need to spend the energy and time in discovering why you made the choices that you did in your marriage and what you need to shift in your thinking and priorities to have a future successful relationship.

I know that life after divorce can be very chaotic and at times scary. You have so many things happening all at the same time as you jump into your single life.

You may have financial problems, custody concerns, emotional issues, self esteem issues, losing friends and feeling lonely and the list goes on.

All of these things can distract you from taking the time for self discovery.

YOU Are #1 When I Comes To Creating A Better Relationship Future

My best advice for women dating over 40: you are the priority right now.

I hope I got that across to you today.

Holly Sidell talks about, ‘He’s Not The One’ and the danger of projecting you future with him.

By taking care of yourself through inner work you will be a better Mom and for sure a better partner in your next relationship.

And you won’t ever have wonder: Is he the one (you’ll know because you are more connected to your truth)?

You’ll just know for sure without a doubt when you have met your perfect mate.

Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

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A Time For Reflection

Your Resolutions For A New Year

It’s the beginning of the year, what’s on your mind?

What is it about the ending of a year and the beginning of a new year…

That causes us to think about where we have been, and what we have achieved, as we end a year, to where we want to be and what we want to achieve in the year ahead?

As a mature single woman you may be thinking that you’re tired of being single and you would like to meet a great guy in the coming year.

Or maybe you were in a relationship that ended this year and you are still trying to adapt to this space of ‘no relationship’ and you feel an emptiness or void in your life.

It really doesn’t matter if you are celebrating at New Year’s eve singles parties in Las Vegas, spending it with friends or are alone for this night of the year, making New Year’s resolutions is an age old tradition.

Self Improvement Is Also On Your List

Or have you have vowed to lose those extra pounds and get into a healthy lifestyle so you can have more energy and feel better?

Some of you will want to get a better job or maybe start your own business.

What Happen To Last Year’s Intentions?

Personal development may be on you list to help you have less stress and a more positive out look on life.

We can all make super long lists with every intention of making all the changes we want to accomplish in this New Year.

But then if we do the reality check, how many changes did we actually make from last years list?

If you are like most human beings on this planet, you probably made only a few of the changes on your list, if that.

I actually think that New Year resolutions could be hazardous to your emotional and physical health.

The stress during the year trying to fulfill your goals and then the stress of the disappointment when you fail or drop the ball could take a toll on your health

What’s Your #1 Change You Want To Make?

So the question is how can this happen year after year no matter how committed you are to your intentions of succeeding in reaching your goals?

Several years ago I finally figured this out for myself and have seen it work for others, so I think it will work for you.

The question I want you to ask yourself is:

If money was not an issue, or any other obstacle were not in the picture…

What is the number one thing that you would change in your life right now?

This is not a trick question, but I know it can be a difficult question to answer.

Imagine your fairy godmother appearing in front of you with her magic wand ready to grant your wish. What is the numero uno change you want to make in your life right now?

Just close your eyes and quiet your mind and take deep breathes in and out several times and notice what bubbles up to help answer this question.

What is important with this exercise is that you don’t rush into an answer but rather ponder this idea for maybe even a couple of days.

Let it sink into your subconscious and see what comes up.

Get Clear, Then Write It Down

If you really get into this exercise you may be totally surprised by your answer. It most likely was not on your list.

Now once you are sure you have the authentic answer to: What is the number one thing that you would change in your life right now?

Write it down on a piece of paper.

Next, imagine what kind of icon or symbol would best represent your desire of what you want to change in your life right now.

It could be a religious or spiritual symbol or a humorous symbol or your own made up symbol.

Now draw that symbol at the beginning of your statement.

A Daily Ritual For The New Year

For the next 3 days take 5 minutes in the morning and close your eyes and repeat your statement to your self and then just sit quietly and visualize the image of this symbol in your minds eye and visualize how this change will impact your life

Next this is the most important part.

On the 4th day take this piece of paper and either burn it or tear it up in little pieces and throw it out into the ocean or the river or the forest as a gesture of giving your desire over to the universe to manifest this change in your life.

Now fast forward to approaching the end of the year…

As you look back to see what you accomplished in the year the one thing that will stand out like a bright shinning light is that you were in deed able to manifest that number one change that you asked for at the beginning of the year.

And here is the good news

Do This All Year Long Or At Anytime

You don’t have to wait for New Years to do this exercise. You can do it anytime during the year and enjoy the benefits of manifesting your desires all year long.

My prediction for finding love and relationships in the coming year is a good one if you follow these simple steps.

Happy New Year!

Suzy Weiss

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What Is Your Attitude Towards Marriage?

For certain women over 40 it’s: I’ve been there done that, never gonna do it again.

A recent study cited on the Washington Post indicates that ‘Married Couples at a Record Low‘.

Some mature women say I’ve learned my lesson, next time I’ll be wiser.

Other women say if it is meant to be it will happen.

What is your attitude toward marriage or what I like to call the ‘M’ word?

Most likely your expectations in your first marriage were not exactly met? Was that because your expectations were not based on reality?

Did You Get Married The First Time For The Wrong Reasons?

Maybe you were lonely and felt left out because most of your girlfriends were married.

Or maybe your felt like your biological clock was ticking and you were running out of time to have the family you always wanted.

Perhaps you got married for financial security.

Or maybe you really don’t know exactly why you got married.

Let’s Face It Marriage Is Complicated At Best.

Trying to put a man and a woman together that grew up with different values is like putting two cats in a gunny sack and thinking they will live in harmony and cooperation.

Successful marriages don’t just happen.

They take work, sacrifice, compassion, compromise and unbending commitment through all the challenges that will emerge for you and your partner.

What happens is we meet a man that sweeps us off our feet and forget what it really takes to make a marriage successful.

So why am I talking about marriage on a website for divorced women over 40?

Because getting married the second time around, your assurance for success is to get really clear about who your ideal partner would be.

Meaning who is best suited for you as a mate.

Now here’s the thing. You can’t figure this out on a superficial level; you must do it on a much deeper level.

You can’t use your ex as a guideline for who not to marry, that is guaranteed to backfire.

You see the first step in having a successful marriage is to be totally tuned into who your ideal mate would be.

That means you spend time and energy on yourself doing the inner work before you leap into dating after divorce.

Most women get this backwards.

They start dating online in hopes of meeting men, get frustrated because they are meeting the wrong men and then move further and further away from what I call intelligent dating.

Intelligent dating is first doing the self discovery to know what you need to have in an ideal mate before you get started dating.

Intelligent dating also means to put yourself in a ‘target rich’ environment where you will raise your odds to meeting your Mr. Right.

I’m not suggesting raise the odds to meet men, I’m talking increase the odds to meet Mr. Right…big difference.

Is A Marriage Attitude Adjustment In Order?

So you may need to do an attitude adjustment around tying the knot the next time around.

But that adjustment means ‘you before him’.

Do the work and reap the reward of love and marriage with the right guy this next time around.

Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

Sometimes We Push Away What We Want

What is your hidden fear when it comes to meeting men over 40?

You actually can’t tell me because it is hidden from you.

It is the unconscious mind that keeps your fears hidden, but at the same time those fears control much of what you do and how you do it.

Now I’m not talking voodoo or witchcraft…it is just how the mind works with some of our fears.

As an example:

If you are recently divorced and you were cheated on by your husband there is a very good chance your self esteem is pretty low. You may even be aware of feeling low self worth.

What happens is that feeling of low self worth gets translated into a hidden fear.

It may be the fear of being rejected by any man you may meet.

So when you meet an available man you put out the vibe that you’re not interested, it’s a way of protecting yourself from the thing you fear…

Rejection.

You don’t realize that your unspoken communication says ‘I’m not interested.’

In its place, your interpretation is you feel rejected.

You base this on your interaction with any man who appears not interested to even have a conversation with you.

But why would he after picking up your loud and clear vibe?

Think about it this way… F.E.A.R. = False Evidence Appearing Real

It seems real to you but in reality it is all about the unspoken communication that you are broadcasting to the men you meet.

We all have hidden fears, it’s not weird and we’re not crazy, even thought it can make you feel crazy sometimes.

What is important is that you learn how to uncover your hidden fears so you can work on whatever the issue is that you are experiencing.

Such as low self esteem.

Not feeling worthy after a divorce is a very common issue for many women.

But, what is important to discover is how it is showing up in your life.

Is Your Fear Of Rejection Stopping You?

Here is a clue…

Your outer world is a mirror of your inner world, that’s the way it works.

So as in the example above you think you are being rejected where in reality you are sending out the message ‘I’m not available’ which is actually the mirror or reflection of your hidden fear that you have projected to the outer world.

So what you need to do is become a really good investigator of what is actually going on in your life.

In other words, what’s real versus what you are projecting/communicating to the outer world.

Yes You Can!

Just imagine that you are a detective assigned to a missing person’s case.

You would need to look for clues and insights to uncover the mystery of where the missing person could possibly be.

To uncover your hidden fear you need to become your own Sherlock Holmes.

There are two Sherlock Holmes quotes that are worth pondering and using them as you investigate your inner world.

Quote Number 1

“In solving a problem of this sort, the grand thing is to be able to reason backward”
Sherlock Holmes

Look backward to the thoughts and emotions you felt after your divorce, they may be the hidden fear that is blocking you from meeting good men.

Quote Number 2

“Eliminate all other factors, and the one which remains must be the truth”
Sherlock Holmes

Ask yourself this question:

Are you being rejected or are you the one rejecting?

Remember your outer world is a reflection of your inner world.

Inner work takes time and energy; there is now way around that.

But the payoff is ten fold.

As a divorced woman dating over 40 this is the perfect time to get clear on your hidden fears.

So don’t waste another day playing hide and seek with your fears.

Soon you’ll be on the right road to truly find your ideal partner.

Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

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You Will Pick The Wrong Husband Unless…

No, Not Again!!!

How will you know when you meet him?

Seriously, tell me how you will know if the guy standing in front of you is the real deal.

How will you know when you have found your ‘Ideal Partner?’

This is the most important question all women dating after divorce must ask themselves?

If you don’t get this part right than you will end up picking the wrong partner, that’s a guarantee.

How do I know?

Because this was the most important lesson I learned on my own journey of dating after divorce.

You need to seriously examine, ‘Why Second Marriages Fail.’

If you never learn anything else from me but this lesson then I will feel grateful that I saved one more woman from making that dreaded mistake of hooking up with the wrong man the second time around and walking down the isle.

I am passionate about this because successful second marriage statistics are dismal at best.

What’s The Story With The Second Marriage?

Second marriages have a higher divorce rate than first marriages.

Why?

Well it starts innocently with lie we tell ourselves about remarriage.

The lie we tell ourselves is…

“I have learned my lesson and will not repeat my past relationship mistakes with husband #2″

We know it’s a lie because second marriages fail more often than first marriages.

So why would your second marriage fail?

Learn From Your Mistakes & Don't Repeat Them

What Is The Second Marriage Divorce Rate?

Why is the second marriage divorce rate higher than that first marriages?

Because, you have not completely understood the real reason for your first marriage failing.

That’s like NASA developing the next rocket before researching why the last rocket one exploded.

Now, if you find yourself feeling defensive and your mind is putting together all the reasons for your split with your ex, like he cheated on you.

I invite you to take a deep breath and try to keep an open mind and hang in there with me for a few more minutes.

After working with thousands of divorced women dating over 40 I began to see a very common thread of why first marriages failed.

In brief it comes down to in this…

Not understanding our own values and emotional needs at the core of your being.

And that is the main reason we choose wrong partners.

Now the second time to the alter, it’s much more complicated than it was the first go around.

You now have your history with your ex, and you’re trying to build a relationship with this new man who brings his own history.

Plus you most likely have children and ex spouses to deal with, and the list goes on.

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How To Ensure The Second Marriage Success?

So for the second marriage it is even more important that you figure out what you need in a relationship to for it to succeed.

And you need to do this before you jump into the dating game, if you value choosing the right partner versus the wrong husband.

Getting clear on your values and emotional needs requires introspective work.

It’s about digging under the facade of who you think you are and what you need, to the oftentimes find your hidden truth.

What is the reality of what you need to have a healthy relationship?

It is not about going in the opposite direction of what you did not have with your ex.

That will invariably point you in the wrong direction of finding your ideal mate.

And this is where so many women dating after divorce get lost and chose the wrong partner again.

Step 1: Get Clear On You Emotional Needs BEFORE Choosing Your Next Mate

We can’t really go into all the detail in this blog but basically emotional needs are about:

Affection
Sexual Fulfillment
Conversation
Recreational Companionship
Honesty and Openness
An Attractive Spouse
Financial Support
Domestic Support
Family Commitment
Admiration

And getting to the reality of your unique emotional needs requirements you must have in order for a relationship to flourish.

Step 2: Prioritize Your Relationship Values

Values are about:

Health
Family
Religion – Spiritual
Political
Education
Empathy-compassionate
Animal lover

Second Marriage Success Is Possible

Again you need to really understand what you most value and must have in a spouse in order to sustain the relationship.

And of course there are other things such as having some common interests like traveling or dancing etc.

We have just uncovered the tip of the iceberg about ‘Second Marriage Success‘ and choosing the right partner this time around.

To really succeed in taking the positive steps to meeting the man that is best suited to you check out “Dating After Divorce, I’m Ready Now What”.

It will take more of the mystery out of finding the right man for you.

Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

Women Dating Over 60: Kirstie’s HOT NEW Look

Kirstie BEFORE >>>> Kirstie AFTER

Many women dating over 60 are looking for love but are worried about if they can find a lasting relationship.

Krisite Alley twice divorced and at the age 60 says she’s looking for love not sex.

Since she recently lost 100 pounds she seems to have a new confidence about finding Mr. Right.

So does this mean that if you lose a bunch of weight and are dating over sixty that you should look for love not sex?

What if you could have both, love and sex?

I happen to really like Kirstie Alley and think she is a great role model for any divorced mature woman dating and who is looking for a man that adores you and has your back.

“Looking to be madly and deeply in love” is what Alley says she wants.

I respect her for working really hard to get herself together both physically and emotionally and to prepare herself to move in a more positive and healthy direction at this time in her life.

If you have followed her you know that she has really struggled with her overweight issues.

And being a celebrity doesn’t make it any easier for her as a divorced woman, with 2 children, to find happiness with a partner.

So what do you think?

Is it losing the 100 lbs. that has given Kirstie the confidence and desire to start dating over 60?

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I say yes, it certainly can be the catalyst for more changes in ones life.

Here’s the thing, when achieving a goal such as losing 10, 20 or 30 pounds or more helps put you in the mind set that you can be successful in other areas of your life.

For many women over 60 dating after divorce and looking for romance, this can feel intimidating.

So you want to do the things that will help you feel good about yourself.

For many women losing weight after 40 and getting in shape can do wonders for your self esteem not to mention your overall health.

Every woman loves to be told she looks great, especially a mature woman wanting to meet men.

So why not do the things for yourself that raises your confidence?

The best advice for women dating over 60 is get clear on the qualities that are most important to you to have in a partner.

If you love to travel to faraway place then look for a partner that enjoys adventures.

Kirstie's Looking Good!

On the other hand of you are a homebody into gardening and having a beautiful home than you want the kind of man that values that lifestyle as well.

But here is where it gets tricky.

You don’t want to clone yourself. Similar values and interests are important.

But you also need balance in a relationship which is why opposites attract and make for great relationships.

As an example:

If you tend to be on the intellectual side than a great partner for you is somebody that can show you the other side of life.

Doing things that are more experimental and right brain oriented.

If you tend to be a more serious person then a perfect partner for you would be someone more laid back.

If you lean toward being a bit of a workaholic then a guy who can better balance work and fun would be a good choice as a partner.

You get the idea?

It is important to take the time before you start dating to get crystal clear on the deal breakers and the type of man that will provide contrast for you.

Women dating over 60 can find love and sex if they work on their self image and take the time to get clear on the kind of man that would compliment them.

Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

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