Women Dating after Divorce – Easy Ways to Attract Good Men

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I just received an email from Sandra, one of my students and it motivated me to make this video for you because I think Sandra’s question is a question lots of divorced women have when they start dating after divorce.

Sandra is a 47 year old divorced woman that wanted to start dating and felt like she didn’t know how to get started.

She had been on a few dates but none of them really lead in the direction that she wanted to go, namely meeting a man that was serious about a long term relationship. It seemed that she was only meeting players and guys that were into head games.

The first step in the dating coaching session with Sandra was working on her attitude.

You got it, attitude comes first.

Are you a single woman that is confident about yourself and clear on what you want?

If not it will show.

Now I’m not talking about some ego centered false bravado.

To attract the good guys, you need to connect first with the core of who you are before you will ever connect with Mr. Right. It’s an inside out process.

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Men who are players are experts at detecting a lack of self esteem or neediness in a woman. They know what buttons to push to get what they want…. Which is usually a roll in the sack and nothing more.

These guys know how to read your body language like a best seller and wrap you around his little finger.

When you are around a man you are attracted to notice your posture, do you make good eye contact? Are you comfortable in your own skin?

If not, you need to make it a priority to start to develop feelings of self confidence about yourself.

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So, which single woman are you?

  • The confident woman makes eye contact and doesn’t avoid it.
  • She is comfortable about herself, she is ok being seen.
  • She has playful mysterious side to her.
  • She takes pride in the way she puts herself together and feels good about herself.
  • She expects a man to respond positively to her and commands respect without being demanding.
  • She doesn’t interrogate a man on the first date. She lets him talk and reveal himself in a very strategic, non-threatening way.
  • She knows how to engage him and keep the conversation flowing.
  • She is relaxed and isn’t in a hurry to Mr. Right.
  • She knows how to keep her emotions in check and is aware of noticing any red flags.

Her self confidence and attitude is paving the way for her to meet lots of quality men and will know with out a doubt when the man of her dreams appears.

So the first step when dating after divorce for women and wanting to attract good men, is to work on your attitude and develop your confidence and self esteem.

Suzy Weiss

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Nelly September 10, 2012 at 5:19 PM

How do you command respect and NOT demand it? I feel that’s where I struggle in a relationship, I become demanding when I do not get the treatment I believe I deserve for a particular situation. And in tern I become angry and resentful and mean, insecure… I dont want to be, but it happens. And he withdraws and then I get even more upset that he is not understanding my frustration and sometimes I end up apologizing for my attitude, which feels like I then let him off the hook…So instead of that sometimes I just wait for him to contact me which can be days.

admin September 10, 2012 at 6:06 PM

Hey Nelly, you can’t command or demand respect. You earn respect. Respect is different from not getting the treatment you believe you deserve. Getting angry is an immature way to deal with relationships. What exactly is the treatment that you feel you should get? Give me a couple of examples so I can see where you are coming from and better answer your question.

Anne February 20, 2012 at 2:47 PM

Thanks for this, Suzy! I have to say I relate to your client Sandra. I’m feeling a little stuck and really don’t know where or how to get started dating. I’ve been divorced for 2 years, my teenage daughters are telling me to go online an start dating with match.com. I dont feel good about internet dating for some reason. I don’t really know where to get good advice and found your blog for dating after divorce. You mentioned coaching. Can you tell me more about that and what the cost is? Many thanks, Anne

suzy February 20, 2012 at 3:31 PM

Hi Anne,
Thanks for your honesty.
Yes, it can be challenging getting out on the dating scene after many years of marriage. I would agree with you reluctance about dating online. Internet dating has a dark side that many people don’t talk about. I do provide dating coaching for women that want to move on and connect with great men. Click this link for: Dating Coach For Women.
All the best,
Suzy Weiss

Pearl February 16, 2012 at 9:57 PM

Okay, I agree with what you are saying on one hand, but on the other hand if you don’t feel confident how can you make a man believe you are. I an mot confident when it comes to dating. My ex and I were high school sweethearts. so I had very little experience dating. Now at 45, I feel like a fish out of water. What can I do to gain some confidence?

suzy February 17, 2012 at 5:34 PM

Hey Pearl, thanks for you honesty. I’m sure a lot of women relate to what you are asking. First of all, you have to start from where you are. Here are some simple things you can do that will start to build your confidence. Get a makeover, hair, clothes and body. Get in shape by joining a gym or playing a sport you like. Learn something new, like a language or kayaking, or take a class on public speaking. These are just a few examples about how to begin to build your self esteem, but I’m sure you get the idea. Add your ideas to these and soon you will feel like a confident woman, I promise :wink”

Irish gal 17 March 31, 2011 at 3:36 PM

I have just read a few of your articles on self confidence, esteem, men who complain about their ex wife and women who talk too much about their divorce or ex husband. So my question to you is when can you talk about your ex or breakup? Doesn’t it seem like you are hiding something if neither of you ever says anything? And really Susy, who thinks they were the cause of a breakup / bad marriage?

suzy March 31, 2011 at 4:38 PM

Hi Irish gal,
Good question, let me explain.
Many women after a divorce have a tendency to want to tell everyone they meet; the good, bad and mostly the ugly about their divorce. Three, four, or five years later they don’t realize that they are still telling the same story to all that will listen. So in the beginning stages of getting to know each other you could shoot yourself in the foot by giving all the gory details and blaming your ex for your failed marriage. Your new guy may interpret what you tell him as you could be dangerous to get involved with in terms of a serious relationship and he’s gone.
Women dating after divorce who are what I call ‘intelligent daters’ don’t hide the basic reason for their divorce ie ‘he cheated’ but they don’t dwell on it and they don’t place blame. After divorce, it is important to think about how you want to begin this new chapter of your life as a single woman. That means you let the past go and look toward the future. That is key for moving on in your life after divorce.
Suzy

suzy January 17, 2012 at 4:09 PM

I agree that women should not let a divorce be the end of the road. And online dating sites are one way to get started, but not always the best way.

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