50 Plus Dating For Women: What Should You Expect?

by suzy

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How Is 50 Plus Dating For Women Different From Dating In Your Younger Days?

Well for starters it often times means that you may be divorced or widowed and you are re- entering the dating game for the second or even third time depending on your situation.

For some women it feels overwhelming to get back into the world of dating at this point in their life.

Women wanting to date after fifty, often tell me that now they really understand what it feels like to be a fish out of water.

Other women say they feel awkward, foolish and even embarrassed to be a woman dating over 50.

Some clients have told me they are just too scared to get out there and meet men even thought they really want a relationship with a nice guy.

Another client said that when she does go on a date she feels like she can’t really be herself. That she needs to be extra charming, funny and almost perfect in everything she says and in how she interacts with the man she is with.

In other words if she is just herself she believes that would not be enough to keep a man interested. The problem for her than becomes when does she become herself if she continues to see this man.

The real problem of course begins with her not being herself in the first place.

In order to be present with the person you are with you need to be yourself. That way you are listening to him rather than thinking about what clever thing you should say next.

So, 50 plus dating for women means that you really need to get conscious about what you are thinking and what are your fears about meeting men this is fundamental dating advice for mature women.

If you have self esteem issues than work with that. Maybe you will want to go to counseling to help you work through the emotional residue that can result after divorce.

Some women find that if they reinvent themselves that gives them that extra motivation to move forward in their new life.

It is pretty exciting to make a new you. You may want to start with a workout program and a diet program to help you lose weight. That will increase your energy and your health and of course your self esteem as you gaze into the mirror and see the new you.

You may want to get a new hairstyle and color, and some new outfits to put on your newly slimmed down body.

The better you feel about yourself the easier it is to get inspired to jump back into the dating game.

I know that sometimes it just feels easier to forget about dating and if by chance you happen to meet someone then that would be great.

And you may tell yourself if you spend the rest of your life alone than that’s okay to.

But the truth is that having a loving partner, especially in you later years, adds so much quality and fun to your life, that it is worth the little bit of discomfort you may feel right now.

50 plus dating for women can actually be a great experience and that zest for life that you are looking for. Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

If you would like to get some excellent support to help you get started check out Dating After Divorce, I’m Ready, Now What.

Hugs,
Suzy Weiss

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david June 3, 2012 at 7:15 PM

I will never date 50 plus women again–its always the same thing—bitter, jaded women who have to regale me with all the “gory” details about the demise of their marriages. And they are also incredibly “needy”-after one date they start calling me over and over again–I want to see you again/when are we going out again etc. etc. etc. I’d rather be alone!!!

suzy June 6, 2012 at 4:22 PM

Hey David, thanks for stopping by. I’m sorry to hear that you must think all women 50 plus are like the one’s you’ve met. There are some great women in that age range that do not fall into that category. I do know that what you shared does happens. I really try to tell women this won’t work. Maybe they will hear it from you if they don’t believe me. Are you in that same age range?

Fongie February 20, 2012 at 10:42 AM

Dating when you’re 50 is soooooooo much different than dating when young. Your character is now built up and it’s also A LOT more difficult to meet the perfect match.

suzy February 20, 2012 at 12:31 PM

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Matt from Online Muslim Dating February 19, 2012 at 11:16 PM

I think Rosa may have just hit the nail on the head!

They say that knowledge is power and for the women out there whom are 50+ are reentering the dating scene I think they’re doing so with the perfect amount of know how and experience under their belts (so to speak!)

Go get ‘em, ladies! :)

Matt

suzy February 20, 2012 at 12:58 PM

Yup, I agree Matt, I think Rosa is spot on. And I say to the ladies out there to take Matt’s advice and… “Go get em ladies

Rosa October 8, 2011 at 1:07 PM

I choose to look on the bright side. You know the expression, “if I knew then what I know now…”? Well now you do. It’s life’s best “do-over”. How often do you get that chance?

suzy February 15, 2012 at 5:49 PM

I agree with you Rosa, if you’re not looking on the bright side then what are your options. Looking at the negative which is not going to take you to a good place. It seems like the choice should be a no brainer, doesn’t it?

Rosa February 15, 2012 at 10:47 PM

And I need as many no brainers as I can get :-)

suzy February 16, 2012 at 2:01 PM

Hey Rosa, you’re spot on! I think we all need to find as many ‘no brainers’ in life as we can :wink:

Thanks for stopping by,
Suzy

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