Do you remember the best-selling, children’s book by Dr. Seuss called, ‘Green Eggs and Ham’?
Basically, the story is about a character known as “Sam I Am” who pesters an unnamed character to taste a strange-looking dish of green eggs and ham.
He declines, claiming to dislike green eggs and ham.
However, the persistent “Sam I Am” would not cease from following him around and trying to encourage him to try the green eggs and ham, asking him if he will sample the dish if he does it in various locations (like a boat or a house) and with an assortment of dining partners (like a goat or a mouse).
At the end, the unnamed character gives in to “Sam I Aim’s” pestering and takes a bite of green eggs and ham, which he finds much to his amazement…he really, really likes ‘green eggs and ham.’
Now this may surprise you…but the story of ‘Green Eggs and Ham’ is a lot like what can happen to you when you re-enter the dating world later in life.
Let me explain…
Typically when you think about dating, you think about the kind of men you would want to meet.
Does he need to be a certain height and in reasonable physical shape?
Is he a professional?
Does he need to have full head of hair?
One woman told me she could never date a man that was a blue collar worker like a plumber or construction worker.
These are just a few examples but I’m sure you get the drift.
While all this sounds reasonable and logical…
As strange as this may sound…
It is what is actually keeping you from meeting your Mr. Right.
I call it ‘pre-judging.’
Just like in the ‘Green Eggs and Ham’ story the character pre-judged that he would not want to try this dish…because it didn’t look like he thought it should.
But once he tried it…he really liked it!
Admittedly, it can be human nature to pre-judge…we all do it at times.
When I first started dating after my divorce, I always met a man at a public place for the first date.
I’m embarrassed to admit this but…
I would tell the date to wear something so I could identify him as to where he would be sitting in the coffee shop.
I made it a habit to always arrive after him.
That way if he looked like ‘green eggs and ham’…LOL I would leave. L
I stopped pre-judging the day I was about to leave thinking he didn’t see me, when there was a tap on my shoulder and he said: “Didn’t you see the name tag I told you I’d wear?”
He ended up being an awesome guy and it would have been tragic to have missed out on getting to know him.
One of the women I recently coached felt she had to date professionals with MBA’s.
She dated MBA’s for years without ever meeting her Mr. Right.
But at 45, when she met her future husband Stan, who was a volunteer at an organization (where dogs were trained for dog therapy)…he was far from being an MBA.
Now Stan had a decent job, but not at all on the same level as the kind of job an MBA would have.
As she got to know him through this volunteer program, she quickly realized he was the kind of man that she was always looking for.
It was clear they were soulmates.
And all this time she’d been pre-jugging men like him.
That leaves this important question…how you can get clarity about the kind of man that would best be suited to you?