I recently came across amazing video of a smart woman telling her story of how she was hoodwinked by a serial cheater.

I’m sharing this video below with you because I think there is a lot that can be learned when you look back on your early dating years.

Looking back before marriage and after divorce can reveal more than you probably realize in terms of your dating patterns and your experiences.

Lynn Terry recently, posted a candid video blog about a past relationship that didn’t quite work out.

Lynn is one smart lady and a fabulous Internet Marketer that I respect and have followed for a while.

She is a single mom that has literally pulled herself up by her bootstraps and has a number of successful online businesses.

In this video, Lynn shares her dating experience after her divorce with a guy she dated for a year or so.

She shares that during this year he never took her out on a date in public except on two different occasions.

That was to eat together, and when he did, he took her out of town.

In fact, just to get a cheeseburger he took her 30 minutes outside of town.

Hmmmm, what’s up with that. 

Watching this video, my first thought was that the guy had to be married.

Was He A Married Man Cheating On His Wife?

This would be the typical pattern of a married man that is cheating, not to wanting to be seen in public with you.

But surprise, surprise he was not married…

Instead, he was a ‘serial cheater’ and not to mention a liar.

It wasn’t until Lynn received an anonymous email from someone who had done a Google search revealing this guy’s user names on something like 19 different dating sites.

But that’s not all…

Lynn also discovered that a woman who was a mutual friend of theirs had been talking with this guy on MySpace (this was a few years ago, when MySpace was popular) for over 10 months and they were actually getting ready to meet in person.

This is all going on while Lynn believed she was in an exclusive relationship with this jerk.

The Rest of The Romance Story, That Didn’t Quite Workout…

Lynn did not meet this guy online.

They both were business owners and met through that channel.

So, Lynn would have had no idea regarding his over the top activity on the online dating sites.

So what does that tell us?

That basically no matter where or how you meet a man, he could be a liar, a cheater or…

Yes, an honest, good guy.

But the jury’s out until you do your due diligence.

How To Tell If Your Man Is Cheating

Does this mean that, you buy surveillance equipment, hire a private investigator and put cell phone spy on his mobile phone?

Well, I don’t suggest that you hire a private eye or get the latest surveillance gadgetry in the hopes of ‘catching a cheater in the act’.

That’s a little paranoid and over the top in my opinion.

But it does mean that do some investigative work to make sure the man you’re dating is an honest dude.

So the question is: How could this happen to an intelligent woman?

Has it happened to you?

Here’s the thing…

Your Personal Dating History Can Be Revealing

The red flags are always there, but that doesn’t mean we choose to see them.

By looking back from the time you started dating in high school and college…

To where you are today, a divorced single woman, can give you some interesting insight.

Signs Of A Cheater: There Are Always Clues

You may discover that there are certain red flags that you don’t see until you get blindsided.

A red flag could be…

You’ve been dating a guy for at least 3 months but you have never met his friends.

This could be one of the signs of a cheater.

Another red flag…

You only have a cell phone number and when you ask him for his home phone he tells you he only uses his cell phone.

This is one of the more common signs he’s cheating on you.

Here’s a few more…

He spends most the time you’re together talking about all his achievements in an effort to impress you.

He says he forgot his wallet so you pick up the tab for dinner.

Back To the Original Question: Is He Cheating On Me?

Serial cheaters can be so smooth.

But when you are being played by these guys, typically there is something in your gut that doesn’t feel right.

Go with your gut.

Here’s another one…

He lives in a different city from you.

He always comes to your city and you’ve never gone to his.

A red flag could be just a gut feeling that something is not right.

Recognize Your Pattern Of Ignored Red Flags

So, when you go down memory lane looking back at your dating history…

See if you can recognize a pattern where you ignored certain red flags.

Next, take a brutally honest look to see if this pattern is showing up in your dating life today.

Once you identify a pattern, it will be easier to spot it before you get blindsided by a guy who is a cheater.

Leave a comment and share your insights about red flags, and what to watch out for!

Hugs,

Suzy Weiss

P.S.  Lynn thanks for your willingness to share your story warts and all.  Hopefully, we can all learn from your experience.

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